Want to break your dating dry spell and find the partner you’ve always dreamed of? Why not make 2020 the year when you finally resolve to find love?
The New Year is upon us so you know what that means. It is time to make those New Year’s Resolutions and if you want to resolve to find love, then I am here to help. Many single men and women date according to the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. So, if you were lonely and unhappy in romance last year, you’ll have to make a few changes. This article will help with great New Year’s resolutions for singles to help you find love in the coming year. Say goodbye to a lonely 2019 and have a love-filled 2020!
1.Make New Single Friends
You’re single, which means you have the luxury and freedom to do what you want without anyone holding you back. Take advantage of this by making new friends with all different kinds of people. New friends will introduce you to other new people, along with new situations and experiences. All of that is exciting! You also may want to get closer to your single friends rather than your friends who are in serious relationships. Make an effort to meet new people at least once a week.
2. Try new things
Make this the year you do things you never thought you would do before. Try something new, go somewhere you’ve never been. Do things even if you’re unsure of whether you’ll like them or not, because you just might surprise yourself. Resolve to find love by stepping outside the box!
3. Cross something off your travel bucket list
The world is huge, and there is so much to see. Start planning to take at least one trip out of the country in the upcoming year. If you can, find a buddy who’s willing to travel with you, but if not don’t let that stop you! Go forward with your plans and see the world that awaits you!
4. Go out alone.
Sit in bars alone. Sit in coffee shops by yourself. Go for walks alone or just you and your dog go. Eat lunch alone. Eat dinner out by yourself. Travel alone. Go to shows by yourself. Go to movie festivals alone. Linger in waiting rooms and lounges and at concession stands and in the aisles of bookstores (remember those?) and on park benches all by yourself. Why? Because people — potential dates — are less intimidated to approach you when you are alone. And you are more likely to notice people — potential dates, maybe — when you’re alone. Putting yourself out there is the best way to resolve to find love.
5. Embrace being single
So many people give being single a bad rap when the truth of the matter is that it is one of the best times of life…only if you make it so. Start looking at all of the positive things that come along with being single, and open your mind and heart to the endless possibilities it brings. The single life is what you make of it, not someone else’s opinion of it
6. Start a monthly friendship meetup
You know that terrible habit all people seem to have of saying “let’s get together” but never following through? Initiate a monthly evening of wine and cheese, board games, or even a book club for your friends — single or coupled up. So make a date, because once a month is doable for anyone.
7. Take a break from dating apps
Deactivate them, uninstall them, or whatever you need to do to keep yourself from swiping. It’s easy to get caught up in this game and end up feeling discouraged or cynical about love and hookups. Remember: it’s not you, it’s them. See resolution #4.
8. Set Boundaries
It’s better to be alone than to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship — especially with someone who doesn’t meet your standards. If he or she sees you as an option, doesn’t know your worth, or doesn’t treat you like a queen, kick them to the curb. When you resolve to find love, you will no longer tolerate being mistreated. Make it known that you will no longer accept people who cancel on you last minute, treat you like plan b every weekend, give you breadcrumbs but not the affection and love you deserve. Because you deserve much more.
9. Put Your Phone Down
If your first impulse on a free moment is to whip out your phone, resolve to fight the habit. You’re tuning out the world around you, which is probably brimming with interesting (and possibly single) people. Wherever it doesn’t go entirely against the grain of social decorum, try to strike up a conversation with your neighbors, even if they’re a crowd you’d never date. Being gregarious and open helps you make new connections (that can indirectly point you to romance by growing your social circle), practice your conversation skills, and broaden your worldview. It’s a win-win-win!
10. Date outside your type
We all have a list of qualities we’re looking for in someone, but don’t rule someone out just because they don’t match up on paper. You might miss out on something better than you could have imagined or asked for on a list.
11. Get out of the house
Being available doesn’t mean you agree to dinner and coffee dates with whoever comes your way. Put yourself in situations where other single people are comfortable approaching you and get to know you. If your routine is to wake up, work, and come home to watch TV, it’s highly unlikely that you will meet anyone at all! Sign up with clubs, groups, dance classes, etc. you’ll be adding a new activity to your routine and increase your interaction with potential dates.
12. Feel comfortable with being uncomfortable
It’s so easy to get into a dating rut and because of that sometimes you must do things that you might not ordinarily want to do. This is a place where you feel a bit uneasy or nervous, but by being there it has the ability to make you grow as a dater and a person. It could be going on that first-speed dating event or taking the unusual step of asking someone out you hit it off with it at a party. It also could mean dating people whom you might otherwise not consider as part of your dating pool.
13. Change Your Routine
Yes, doing what you’ve always done, will get you the results you’ve always gotten. If you haven’t found the right partner during your usual routine, it’s time to get creative in your daily & dating activities. This is a new year, and the best way to meet new people is of course- to try something “NEW”. If you get too comfortable in doing the same routine for the rest of the days and months- and or years; it might end up to be monogamous and boring. Now is the time to explore. Take a different jogging route, try out new activities which you might like, go out to restaurants and cafes in which you haven’ been to. By doing so, you can discover and learn new things and get to meet new dates and people.
14. Be Friendlier.
If you are the bashful type, now is the year to finally conquer it. Now is the time for you to build up your confidence and gather your courage. Picture this, he’s so near yet you can’t even say “hi” or give a smile, don’t waste any more time and give some effort. Say “Hi” and learn to smile more. Pump yourself up with courage and try looking at people in a relaxed and friendly manner.
15. Share Your Best Self
Maybe it’s not just what you are doing that needs a makeover, but who you are and how you show up! Get real with yourself by asking: What about you isn’t as attractive as it could be? Ask your closest friend for honest feedback. Do you tend to be overly anxious or pessimistic? Are quick to pass judgment or so shy you fade into the background? Maybe it’s time to hit the gym, get some cute clothes, or try a new hairstyle? Remember you never get a second chance to make a first impression.
Want more dating advice? Read Julia’s blog New Year New You… 2020 is your year to find love!!!
Julia McCurley is a Professional Matchmaker , Relationship Coach and CEO of Something More, Austin’s premier Matchmaking service. After a successful career in the IT staffing business, she decided to take her headhunting skills and transfer them to be a headhunter for the heart. She has been creating happy couples in Austin since 2009 and has helped hundreds of singles on their journey to finding love. Julia has been featured in many media outlets such as ABC, NBC, CBS , and Fox TV affiliates, Bustle, and the Huffington Post. She also just published her first book, Game Set Match: A Professional Matchmaker’s Advice on How to Win At the Game Of Love.