When you are single dating during the holidays can be daunting but there are many reasons you should be dating. Shouldn’t you be happily coupled up by now? Well, then I’ve got good news for you! Even though you might find yourself saying “everyone is in a relationship but me!”, the truth is there are plenty of other singles out there also searching for love during the holidays. So stop waiting and start dating!
Reasons To Date During The Holidays
Here are the top five reasons you should be dating during the holidays:
There are more singles to meet
Dating during the holidays offers a whole new group of potential singles. And bonus, you have the opportunity to meet more people in person, because of all the holiday gatherings and events happening at this time of year. Use these social events as your very own holiday dating service. If you start to view it as such, at the very least, you’ll see that there are opportunities all around you to meet like-minded singles who are ready to start dating. The holidays are no time to be sitting at home swiping or winking. Get out there!
People are more relationship ready
As the holidays approach people tend to take stock of their lives and become more interested in sharing with someone and coupling off. Between watching endless romantic holiday movies and wanting to share a New Year’s kiss, people are more motivated to be dating during the holidays. The holidays can make people feel more serious about finding love.
The holidays serve as a reminder that people don’t want to be alone, and may take more action to find someone
Your friends are more likely to hook you up
Everyone is brimming with warm fuzzy feelings, and there is a greater chance that your friends will think of you more often, and try setting you up more actively with potential dates than they have been through the year. Dating during the holidays allows you to take advantage of your friend’s matchmaking services! Friends don’t let friends be alone during the holidays.
You are more relaxed and open-minded
Since the holidays come with their own charm, such as looking at lights and decorations across the city, it helps put you in the mood for dating during the holidays. During the rest of the year, a lot of people will not give someone a chance if they are not overly attracted to them even though they haven’t spoken a word to each other As it gets closer to winter, and especially during the holiday season, people tend to become more open and more willing to go out and date people they otherwise wouldn’t.
It’s easier to approach someone
During this time of the year, many people are more vulnerable because they do not want to spend the holidays alone. Due to this vulnerability, single people during this time of the year will be friendlier if you try to engage them in conversation. The holiday season entails several holidays back-to-back, and people don’t want to spend one holiday alone, let alone more than one. So keep this in mind about how people are feeling during the holiday season, and start being a little more friendly.
Dating isn’t easy during any time of the year, so make sure to know your worth, set your intentions, stay true to your values, and most importantly, remember to take care of yourself. This is supposed to be a fun process, not a chore! Keep that in the back of your mind as you go forth and conquer the territories of love and sex.
Want more dating advice? Read here for tips on how to survive going to holiday parties alone.
Holiday Fear Meet Holiday Cheer
When you are single, its common to holiday fear meet holiday cheer. Have yourself a merry little Christmas. That’s what we’ll be humming but how can you help make your relationships shine brightly beyond the holiday season? Professional Matchmaker Julia McCurley shares some relationship advice on how you can create the love you want.
Let’s face it: the holidays can be a daunting time for both singles and couples. For Singletons, there is an expectation that you will be bringing the love of your life to the company/family/best friend holiday party instead of your Aunt Louise’s next-door neighbor’s nephew. For Coupled-Ups, it’s difficult trying to create a Norman Rockwell scene since families are all trying to put the “fun” back into dysfunctional, so to speak.
In other words, holidays can be an extremely stressful time for everyone, no matter what your relationship status, so embrace the possibilities.
Attention married couples, for your annual holiday open house, why not go through your mental Rolodex and invite some eligible bachelors/bachelorettes? Remember how Charlotte from the show Sex and the City made all her married friends go through their address books and she got several dates out of it? Go Charlotte!
Whether you are married or single, most of us completely understand the holiday expectation of wanting to have someone to snuggle with by the fireplace, kiss under the mistletoe, and with whom to make a champagne toast on New Year’s Eve.
For all you fabulous Singles, holidays are a great time to step out of the box and embrace yes as your favorite word. No matter who is hosting the soiree’, whether it’s a party thrown by some married friends, the Junior League, the tennis club, or any other organization to which you might be attached, you never know who will you meet. Flying solo can be daunting, but not impossible, so give it a try because it can really build your confidence.
For all of us the holidays are a great time to focus on giving back to your community. This can include adopting a family in need, working at the local food bank, going to the children’s hospital, women’s shelters, homeless shelters; the list is endless. No one can ever criticize you for your lack of holiday lights if you are busy at the soup kitchen.
The bottom line is that this year’s holiday season will come and go as it always does.
Why not plan to make this the best one ever simply by focusing on giving to others and stepping out of your comfort zone? Get online, check out the top charity events of the season, look on Meetup.com for singles holiday parties in your area, and even Facebook can be a great resource of holiday event happenings. Now matter how you do it, get out there and be spectacular.