New year new you: Its time to transform your love life in 2025. Out with the old, in with the new, right? This time of the year we are all excited to make a fresh start, clearing away the past to make room for the future. January 1st is the best time to make these changes because of the hope the new year always seems to promise.
Most people make New Year resolutions every year and unfortunately, nearly all of them fail. Maybe it is not the fault of the people making them, but in the kind of resolutions they want to commit to. The majority of these resolutions are about quitting something like smoking or drinking, or self- improvement types of decisions like to lose weight, go to the gym, start reading more, etc. Those are all admirable and definitely ones to focus on before putting yourself out there in the singles scene.
When you are in healthy place both physically and emotionally, it is time to make a conscious decision that giving back to yourself is the best way to finally find love. January is the perfect time to wipe your slate clean of last year’s love mistakes to ensure that next year really is filled with lasting love. Make the new year the new you.
If you are truly serious about finding the love of your life this year, consider commiting to the following:
1. Eliminate Old Patterns
To promote a changed outcome in love, it is vital to identify and tackle the patterns that have held you back. Contemplate your past romantic entanglements for just a moment: What themes or behaviors have you noticed returning with alarming frequency? Do you court a kind of partner who is always a little too far off emotionally, or do you rescue individuals whose idea of commitment is a pipe dream? These patterns, once acknowledged, can serve as the impetus for attempting healthier, more productive relationships in the future. They can also keep your mind lit and your heart warm as you contemplate solitary summer walks.
2. Date Outside Your Type
If your typical “type” has resulted in disappointment, it could be time to broaden your horizons. Explore dating with individuals who don’t fit your usual mold. That could mean a different age, profession, or lifestyle. Embracing diversity in your dating choices can have surprising and fulfilling results. The forms in which we find our soulmates are often the least expected. Remember that when you’re out there dating.
3. Guard Your Time Wisely
Dating takes time, and not everyone has the luxury of time to spend on it. If you’re in a hurry to find “The One,” it’s crucial to weed out the bad prospects and invest only in relationships with potential. Set a timeline for yourself—three months will do—and see if the relationship is developing. If it isn’t, and if you’re not with someone whose goals for the relationship align with yours, don’t be afraid to set sail for safer waters. As Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.”
4. Change Your Routine
Stagnation can lead to monotony, both in life and in love. If you want to invigorate your dating life, you might want to try invigorating at the same time your daily life. That can mean, for instance, doing your workout in a new place, whether that’s outside on a different running route or inside at the space you share with workout buddies. Meals, too, can be an opportunity to get fresh air and fresh company. Restaurants—especially those you haven’t tried before—can be great spots to mingle in and with.
5. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
It is far too easy in the era of social media to get caught up in making comparisons. Do not give in to the temptation to evaluate your life against what seems to be other people’s flawless existence. Every journey is different, and what looks to be a simple, straight path is often full of unexpected twists, turns, and bumps. What you see is not always (or often) the whole story; it is at best a highlights reel, and it is one that plays over and over in your mind if you let it.
6. Be Honest with Yourself and Others
Establishing healthy relationships hinges on clear and true communication. Seize the chance to be honest with your date and yourself. If you are not feeling it with your date, say so—don’t lay it on with excuses or vanish mysteriously à la ghosting. And if you’re in a new relationship with someone and something feels off, have the conversation that makes you feel better. Avoiding ambiguity encourages your new partner to do the same—and is a far better alternative to the path of least resistance.
7. Share Your Best Self
Maybe it’s not just what you are doing that needs a makeover, but who you are and how you show up. Get real with yourself by asking: What about you isn’t as attractive as it could be? Ask your closest friend for honest feedback. Do you tend to be overly anxious or pessimistic? Are quick to pass judgment or so shy you fade into the background? Maybe it’s time to hit the gym, get some cute clothes, or try a new hairstyle? Remember you never get a second chance to make a first impression and 2021 will be a year that is very impressionable on us all.
And let’s not forget that loving oneself is the road back toward the renewed adventure of finding love with another! Don’t let another year go by wondering if you will ever meet the right person for you. Even if you just take one of these suggestions and seriously commit to them, chances of love coming your way will be greatly improved.
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