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Go Straight To The Date

Why don’t people go straight to the date? Much of online dating has used private messaging as a core way for singles to communicate prior to meeting in person rather than go straight to the date.

Tinder’s entire value proposition is that it connects you with other users nearby with whom you can immediately start chatting if the interest is mutual. But what if that’s not what singles actually want?

Much of online dating has used private messaging as a core way for singles to connect, communicate, and bond,  instead of trying to go straight to the date, vet who they’d like to meet with, and explore a romantic relationship. But some online dating entrepreneurs think that singles want to date, not spend precious time exchanging messages that often lead nowhere, take forever, aren’t conveying the person’s true personality, and so on.

Once the conversation is flowing, ask your match if they’d like to grab a coffee or a drink — ideally within the next few days, not three weeks from now. The first reason to meet up with a dating app match quickly is to stop yourself overthinking. Messaging too much before meeting can also mean you become emotionally attached to the person before you’ve even met, which can lead to even more disappointment if it doesn’t go well,
 If you put off meeting up for too long, you might run the risk of never actually making it to a date with the person.  Avoid any heavy relationship questions like ‘What are you looking for.’ Aim for a mindset of being open to a relationship if you meet someone great, but not that you need a relationship or want one for the sake of it. So, seeing how easily you get on and how well you communicate is more important than having someone meet a list of criteria.