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Coping with Holiday Stress

Holidays often brings unwelcome guests —stress and depression. And it’s no wonder. There are a dizzying array of demands — parties, shopping, baking, cleaning and entertaining, to name just a few.

But with some practical tips, you can minimize the anxiousness that accompanies this time of year. You may even end up enjoying the season more than you thought you would.

When holiday stress is at its peak, it’s hard to stop and regroup. Try to prevent feeling pressure in the first place, especially if things have taken an emotional toll on you in the past. Hre are some tips:

1. Acknowledge your feelings.

If someone close to you has recently died or you can’t be with loved ones, realize that it’s normal to feel sadness and grief. It’s OK to take time to cry or express your feelings. You can’t force yourself to be happy just because it’s the holiday season.

2. Reach out.

Join a community, religious or other social events when you get lonely. Other people in your situation can offer support and companionship.

Volunteering your time to help others also is a good way to lift your spirits and broaden your friendships.

3. Be realistic.

The holidays don’t have to be perfect or just like last year. As families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Choose a few to hold on to, and be open to creating new ones. For example, if your adult children can’t come to your house, find new ways to celebrate together, such as sharing pictures, emails or videos.

4. Set aside differences.

Try to accept family members and friends as they are, even if they don’t live up to all of your expectations. Set aside grievances until a more appropriate time for discussion. Chances are they’re feeling the effects of holiday stress and depression, too.

5. Stick to a budget.

Before you go shopping, decide how much money you can afford to spend. Then stick to your budget.

Don’t try to buy happiness with an avalanche of gifts. Try these alternatives:

  • o Donate to a charity in someone’s name.
    o Give homemade gifts.
    o Start a family gift exchange.

6. Plan ahead.

Set aside specific days for shopping, baking, visiting friends and other activities. Plan your menus and then make your shopping list. That’ll help prevent last-minute scrambling to buy forgotten ingredients. And make sure to line up help for party prep and cleanup.

7. Learn to say no.

Saying yes when you should say no can leave you feeling resentful and overwhelmed. Friends and colleagues will understand if you can’t participate in every project or activity. If it’s not possible to say no when your boss asks you to work overtime, try to remove something else from your agenda.

8. Don’t abandon healthy habits.

Overindulgence only adds to your stress and guilt. Try these suggestions:

o Have a healthy snack before holiday parties so that you don’t go overboard on sweets, cheese or drinks.
o Get plenty of sleep.
o Incorporate regular physical activity into each day.

9. Take a breather.

Make some time for yourself. Spending just 15 minutes alone, without distractions, may refresh you enough to handle everything you need to do.

Find something that reduces stress by clearing your mind, slowing your breathing and restoring inner calm.

Some options may include:

  • o Taking a walk at night and stargazing.
    o Listening to soothing music.
    o Getting a massage.
    o Reading a book.

10. Seek professional help if you need it.

Despite your best efforts, you may find yourself being persistently sad or anxious, plagued by physical complaints, unable to sleep, irritable and hopeless, or even face routine chores. If these feelings last for a while, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional.