Bad boys vs nice guys? You’ve probably heard the saying – Nice guys finish last and girls just want to date a bad boy. You might be wondering why women can’t seem to resist dating bad boys. If this is true it begs the question, what is the difference between bad boys and nice guys? Something More Matchmaking reviews did some extensive research and here’s what we came up with.
- What a bad boy isn’t: A jerk, a criminal, a guy who doesn’t care and will hurt you
- What a bad boy is: Confident, Self-assured, in other words, SEXY
- Nice guys can come across as being soft, too sensitive, a push over… not sexy.
Follow these easy steps to gain Bad Boy qualities but still remain a Nice Guy!
Be a Man – Have your own life, your own time, dreams, plans, goals and interests. Don’t compromise those for anyone. If you don’t like something, don’t pretend you do. Be confident about your likes and dislikes, this will naturally attract like minded people.
Know Your Value – What do you, like or hate, what makes you sad or happy, what makes you different. Know yourself because otherwise you will find yourself with fake values in order to fit in and be accepted. Can you really be happy if you’re pretending to be someone you’re not?
Make YOU #1 – This isn’t about being selfish or narcissistic. Make you and your life a priority and others secondary. When you treat yourself as important, other people including women will see you that way too. People naturally attract important people, so be important! When you show a woman that you are interesting she will appreciate your self-interest. It shows you know what you want and you’re not afraid to go after it.
Stop Caring about Everything – Nothing is less sexy than a guy who is constantly stressing and worrying about every little thing. Bad boys don’t sweat the small stuff because they are confident enough to have it under control. Example: You find yourself in a situation with women you find attractive. Always be prepared by dressing for style and comfort. Women love good grooming. Comfort doesn’t mean dressing like a slob, but if you’re comfortable in your style, she will see that you’re cool, confident and in control of your situation, which can be downright sexy.
Keep Your Nerves in Check – Showing confidence and playing it cool is attractive. Start by slowing down your movements and actions, speak slowly and enunciate with mature language. Avoid nervous twitching and gestures. Even for a bad boy things don’t always go as planned. Your ability to roll with any situation will show her you are confident and can think on your feet.
Stop Asking for Permission or Approval-If you’re always waiting for the “go” signal it can be a sign you’re insecure and indecisive. A nice guy might ask “Will you go on a date with me”? A bad boy will say “We should hang out. What’s good for you, Friday or Saturday?” Even if you are shot down, your decisiveness is more attractive to her than you asking for her attention.
Lead – A bad boy will always lead. A woman is waiting for you to tell her where you’re going and what you’re doing. When planning a date, have an opinion about the restaurant location. A bad boy would say – “I’d love to take you to dinner. I was thinking about this location or that location, which do you prefer?” This shows her you can take charge but also include her in the decision.
• Disclaimer: Real men aren’t creeps or perverts. Be confident, but also be very aware of your partner’s needs. Never, ever force a kiss (or worse) on someone who doesn’t want it. Just as you are keenly aware of your own desires, so are they. Respect their decisions.