You don’t need the perfect relationship to be happy now. Be in love with what you have today!
If you’re desperately seeking the absolutely perfect relationship, call off the search!
Whether you’re single, dating, married or divorced, you don’t need to find a brand new partner — or a perfect partner at all — to be happier in love today. All you need to do is look at your current love life “bright side up,” from a more positive perspective.
By learning to appreciate what’s in front of you, being grateful for the good stuff, and shifting the way you approach relationships, you can be happier right now. In other words, don’t change your love life, just change how you see it.
Here are my top five tips that can help you feel happier with the love situation you’re living in today.
1. Let the lemons in love help you appreciate the sweet stuff.
If you’ve never had a date go wrong, you wouldn’t get as many fireworks in your belly when you kiss someone who’s right. And sometimes it takes a bad relationship to open your eyes to see why you really deserve a good one. In other words, thank the lemons. Because as sour as they are in the moment, they’re helping you appreciate the sweet stuff.
2. We all have a sweet spot. Find yours.
Tennis players know the sweet spot on their racquet and aim for it every time. Well, we can aim for those same “sweet spots” in love, too. When are you most affectionate? That’s your sweet spot for date night.
When are you most patient and positive? That’s your sweet spot for making plans for the future. What time of day or day of the week do you feel the most excited and hopeful? That’s your sweet spot for first dates, when you’re most open to having fun whatever happens. Harness the power of your sweet spot and you’ll start acing your love life!
3. Ask “What can I bring to the table?”
The condiments you pack in a picnic basket give you plenty of options to alter the taste of a meal, and that’s how your love life is, too. If you’re aggravated with your date or partner, ask yourself this: “What can I bring to the table that might change our connection?” Maybe you could be affectionate first, ask questions, or be a generous and understanding listener.