When you hear the term “professional matchmaker” what is the first thing that comes to mind? For most people its’ that show on Bravo TV called “The Millionaire Matchmaker”. This controversial show brought a lot of attention to the cottage industry known at matchmaking. Some good, some bad attention. The good part is that most people didn’t even know that if they live in major city there is most likely a Professional Matchmaker who is based there and ready to help singles find love in their city. The bad part is that the person portraying the “millionaire matchmaker” gave the impression that matchmakers can be harsh and not helpful as to why the person may have had some trouble finding love on their own. But there are a number of very key differences between how Patti Stanger and I do things. For one, we don’t do cattle calls to amass a herd of dating prospects for clients, and then rudely criticize every aspect of their appearance. It’s just not our style. Plus, that’s a television show and they do that to get more viewers.
The truth is not all singles have “issues”. What I find the most common reason people haven’t met their person yet is simply due to having access to the type of single people they are trying to meet. Studies show that there are 92 potential reasons for singlehood and they can be classified into 18 broad factors, with the most common ones being poor flirting skills, willingness to be free, fear of getting hurt, having different priorities, and being too picky. The 18 factors could be grouped further into four general domains, with the highest rated one. Men were more likely than women to indicate that they were single in order to be free to flirt around, and because they were not into family making; while women were more likely than men to indicate that they were single in order to avoid getting hurt, and because they were not perceiving themselves to be desirable as mates.
The study goes on to say that the reasons that single people think may have led to their singlehood, which may not necessarily be the actual reasons for their singlehood status. For their part, men are more likely than women to say technology is a reason dating has gotten harder. Overall, 47% of Americans say dating is now harder than it was 10 years ago, while 19% say it’s easier and 33% say it’s about the same.
Other studies show the most common explanations of why people stay single include the challenge of finding someone who is looking for the same type of relationship (53% say this is a major reason), difficulty in approaching people (46%) and trouble finding someone who meets their expectations (43%). Men are far more likely than women to be on the dating market: 61% of single men say they are currently looking for a relationship or dates, compared with 38% of single women.
The good news is that after a year of lockdowns and social distancing, people are jumping at the chance to get out and attend parties and barbecues and grab dinners out on the town, making it the perfect time to turn back your attention to mingling with singles in real life. In an age of dating apps and casual hookups, a Pofessional Matchmaker may seem like a relic from another era. But although they’ve been bringing people together since long before we were swiping right, matchmaking as a profession is still alive and well.
The truth is, there are plenty of other smart, successful, attractive people out there looking for love — most singles are just going about searching for them in the wrong way
.A matchmaker can weed out all the flakes, the phonies, and those who just aren’t a good fit for you. Can your apps do that? Didn’t think so. There’s a good reason why many high-powered CEOs, executives, and celebrities use a Professional Matchmaker to find love. They don’t have the time or energy to waste on dead-end dates. If that sounds like you, then working with a professional matchmaker may be just the change you need to upgrade your love life.
Basically, anyone can benefit from the help of a matchmaker — but here are a few examples of particularly fitting candidates:
- Busy professionals with limited time to meet people
- Daters who want to avoid being catfished or otherwise deceived
- Men who keep ending up in the friend zone (and don’t know why)
- Celebrities who can’t make a move without the paparazzi knowing about it
- Well-known people who require anonymity in their dating lives
- Divorced people who are timid about getting back out there
- Anyone who’s having trouble finding quality singles who meet their standards
- Anyone who’s sick and tired of dating apps
Yes, dating apps have seen a significant uptick in activity over the last year — Hinge reported a 14% increase in dates globally between 2019 and 2020 — but some single people have taken it one step further, seeking out dating coaches and matchmakers to help attract the right partner or do all the heavy lifting for them. Dating experts were both surprised and relieved to see a flood of interest at a time when the world was told to stay home. But in a world where bars are closed and bumping into a stranger is an anxiety-inducing event, even more singles have been willing to pay anywhere from a few hundred to tens of thousands of dollars for a coach, dating course or a professional matchmaker. While dating apps create a sense of abundance, a professional matchmaker emphasizes the quality of a few connections. And if apps require people to sink hours into swiping and chatting, matchmakers offer an opportunity to outsource the effort.
A great reason to hire a Professional Matchmaker is you’ve had enough of being single.
Why would this be a great reason to work with a matchmaker? Because the clients that matchmakers want to work with are those that are truly ready to get into a great relationship. Unlike dating apps where you’ll run into newly single, kind of single, not really single, definitely single people, matchmakers are selective about who they work with and who they bring into the fold of the professional dating network.
Matchmakers are exclusive. Dating apps are not.
It’s always a choice. And you have plenty of them. You can choose to register for another virtual speed dating event. You can sit on your phone and hope the next swipe is the swipe of your dreams. Or you can reach out to a professional matchmaker like Something More and let us know that you’re ready to get serious about meeting someone to be serious with. It’s your call.
Some people think that using a Professional Matchmaker is out of their budget. But once you factor in the cost and time of managing an online dating profile, the money spent on dates, and the time you waste on dates that don’t lead anywhere, the price of choosing our matchmaking service really balances out. Spending a few grand on a matchmaker who can guarantee a quality date or even a long-term match may sound more attractive to those truly serious about finding love.
A Professional Matchmaker meet with clients, interview potential matches, dispense dating advice, and attend networking events. … Matchmakers may also interview their clients to determine why past relationships have failed, and help them formulate a strategy to achieve their relationship goals.