Dating Apps Vs Matchmaking Services

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Dating apps vs matchmaking services is something that can increase your chances of finding love. Matchmaking services have been around for thousands of years. Dating has really been revolutionized with the introduction of the internet. Prior to online dating apps, you could only meet people at school, church, work, in bars. Perhaps a family member or neighbor would set you up. Now dating apps are a viable option for anyone seeking more avenues to find love.

However, there are some advantages and disadvantages to finding love online:

1.Online dating can be dangerous.

Of course, nothing in life is guaranteed and there are many dangers in  using dating apps. Fraud is rampant and you may even run the risk of identity theft . People’s lives have been destroyed by romance scams.

2.Online dating sites and dating apps have been infiltrated by the porn industry.

3.Deception has proliferated the online dating world  as well as dating apps resulting in many more broken hearts.

You have no idea if the person you “meet online” is married, a serial cheater or dater. A recent surveys indicated that as many as 40% of the profiles marked “single” on a popular dating site looking to have affairs.  Matchmaking is a more efficient and legitimate way to meet vetted singles who are legally available.

4,  There are no legal protections for online dating resulting in less reporting of crimes

On the other hand, there are many benefits in utilizing the services of a professional matchmaker.

1. You receive personalized attention to ascertain what you are seeking in a potential candidate.
2. Higher level of screening and vetting. The matchmaker would personally meet with a pool of prospects and only introduce you to compatible matches.
3. Provides professional advice in assessing you and your situation far more accurately than any personality test online ever could.

You have increased your chances of success by using a matchmaker.

A matchmaker will require more monetary compensation but you’ll be getting the better deal. You minimize the risk factor and maximize the benefits by employing an expert who knows how to find your perfect match.

When did dating turn into data?

As I work with my clients building successful relationships in today’s world of smart phones, social media and instant access, I am struck by the changes they are encountering in dating in 2014. Some of those changes offer a funny, if sometimes sad, commentary on the relationship world we live in today.

• First dates are more boring now because you already know everything about them from their Facebook profile or the Google search you did on them before you went out. No surprises, no mystery. That can take the magic out of your first date faster than Houdini escaping from a pair of cheap handcuffs.
• People think you’re weird if you call now, since everyone else emails, texts or tweets. It’s like “only call if it’s some kind of emergency.” And, deciphering some people’s abbreviated emails and texts is worse than trying to understand why the world is flat and not round.
• Despite the fact that text messaging doesn’t require both parties to be connected at the same time like a phone call does, there is a sense that you should constantly monitor your phone in case someone sends you a text. When you don’t get a text returned right away, you might as well be at the dentist getting a root canal, it’s that painful.
• Online dating is like an MLS for people’s romantic lives, and there are a lot of similarities to the one for houses.

They never look as good as they do in the picture for a start and everyone is looking for the same thing: And now you can even hire people to write your profile for you. It was only a matter of time before this MLS attracted realtors.

• Dating is the only time where you are both the buyer and the seller. Therefore you think you are perfect and want to get the most bang for your buck.
• Making your relationship official by changing your status on Facebook is the kiss of death. If you have any sort of jealous streak, count on it rearing its ugly head as soon as you see a photo of him at happy hour with those co-workers he’s just “friends” with.
• When you are not interested in someone you can just block their call, or send the short “nice knowing you” text or email. No need for that awkward breakup conversation, where you might have to answer those hard questions like “why?” or “what happened?”.
• In the old days when you wanted to break up with someone you would let them down gently by saying “it’s not you, it’s me”. All you have to do is leave your browsing history up or let him/her go through your phone, or post a too-cozy picture on your Facebook page
• Last but not least, all this technology leaves us feeling like the dating world is something like a massive eBay auction. While the person we are with is pretty good, certainly we can do better because we have so many options. I bet, if we dig through enough profiles, we can find the bigger, better thing.

Well, the reality of all of this technological innovation is that, while communication styles may have changed, dating and relationships are still built and nurtured the same old-fashioned way. Love is about face to face interaction. Frankly, while my client’s weddings are getting more and more connected to social media, nobody texts “I do.” Some things only work when you actually talk to one another.

Human beings are at our core extremely social animals, and we crave the physical and emotional interaction that we can only get while in the presence of other humans. Spending time liking friending, linking, tweeting, pinning, and tapping may feel like you are connecting to others, but it may actually make your life even more isolated.

Reading even a very heartfelt “LYL” text just can’t compare to someone who looks in your eyes, touches your hand and says, “I love you”. So get off the computer and get out there in the real world where you could actually find the person of your dreams. Trust me. There is a huge universe of people just like you who are looking for the same thing. #offlineworks.

5 Things a Matchmaking Service Can Offer Over Online Dating

There are many things that a matchmaking service can offer. With new dating apps  popping up all the time, it seems everyone has tried at least one. Be it Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, or something else, these apps are great at connecting us to potential matches in real time. However, they seem to be less great at creating valuable, lasting connections.

If you’re ready to take your love life to the next level and find better quality matches, you might be ready for a professional service like Something More.

Here are five benefits  a matchmaking service can offer that dating apps don’t provide:

1. Personal Connection

You will meet a matchmaker face to face so they can get acquainted with you, your personality, lifestyle, expectations and desired qualities in a partner. A matchmaker is able to go deeper than an app profile with a few photos and a brief description. Matchmaking services look at the complete picture and personally select individuals where there’s potential chemistry.

2. Pre-screened Singles

Each of your matches will be pre-screened and hand-selected to ensure they meet your desired partner musts.  Everyone you will be introduced to is not dating other people, for sure is looking for a committed relationship, and is emotionally available. How many dates would it take for you to find out that information on your own?

3. Quality Dates

So much time is wasted on apps going back and forth, interacting with numerous people until you finally lock-in a date with someone. Once you do, the date can be lackluster and you’re back at square one.

Matchmaking services maximize your time by scheduling dates on your behalf with someone who’s equally invested in meeting someone and having quality interactions. No back and forth, no figuring out where to go, all you have to do is show up and enjoy getting to know your match.

4. Feedback

Wondering whether the date was a success? Matchmakers check-in with their clients to see what went well and what didn’t. You receive invaluable post-date feedback and insight from a neutral party who knows both individuals and how each one may have perceived the date differently and why.

5. Coaching

Matchmaking services not only provide feedback but also coaching advice to enhance the dating experience and ensure you’re getting the most out of your membership.

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