When it comes to approaching women, it can result in creating anxiety for many men. They can come across as the most charismatic conversationalists and powerful executives. When it comes to meeting women, however, they turn from industry giants into frightened little boys.
What makes matters worse is the fact that women expect men to lead and make the first move.
Some men have approach anxiety for many reasons. Some are not sure how to start a conversation. Others may be intimidated by beautiful women. Some are just painfully shy around strangers.
Here, are some quick and easy tips for you to try.
1. UNDERSTAND THE TARGET OF REJECTION.
You are not being rejected. You are not being judged. The woman whom you just approached in a bar knows nothing about you. There may be a whole list of reasons why she said no. Maybe she had a bad day at work or she is not feeling well, Perhaps she is married or has a boyfriend. Whatever it is, she did not reject you because you are a bad or ugly person.
Take time to come up with a few unique line openers at home and then rehearse in front of the mirror. This way you can make sure your body language seems natural and confident.
3. DO NOT TAKE YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY.
Lighten the mood by approaching a woman in a playful and flirtatious way. It is a lot more difficult for a woman to reject a guy who is willing to laugh at himself. Be careful to not laugh too much, however, as you don’t want to seem like an idiot,
4. NEVER APPROACH FROM AN INFERIOR PLACE.
Think about it. You may just be the guy this woman wanted all her life. You know your worth. What you are offering her is priceless: love and relationship. If she turns it down, there will be another woman more than happy to accept it.
5. BE UNIQUE.
Forget the small talk. For example, instead of saying, ‘Hi, my name is Rick,’ ask for her advice. ‘I hope you can help me. I am deciding on a birthday gift for my sister. It’s between a bracelet and an iPad. What do you think?’’
Women love being helpful as much as they love being asked for their opinion.
6. BECOME IMMUNE TO REJECTION.
Go out and get rejected. Many times over. Don’t have any delusions about it: it will be difficult in the beginning. Very difficult. However, the more you go through the process, the easier it will become. You will eventually become resistant to rejection. I promise.
7. PUT THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE!
You are not solving world problems. You are not discovering a cure for cancer. It is not a matter of life and death. You are just trying to start a conversation with a woman whom you do not know. That is it. How will your life be affected if she turns you down? Will you lose your job and become destitute? No. Will you lose custody of your children and never be allowed to see them again? No. Will you develop a terminal illness? No.
So remember: the next time you see a beautiful woman whom you would like to meet, don’t pass up your chance. Be prepared, be confident and be ready to meet the woman of your dreams.
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