Jilted in January? Top 5 Reasons You Are Single Again
Here is a Professional Matchmaker Julia McCurley’s take on the most common reasons her clients give her for
1. Didn’t want to be alone during the holidays: Studies show that couples who likely would otherwise have called it quits decide to stay together through November and December because they don’t want to face the holidays alone. In their minds, it’s better to have someone to take to the holiday parties and family gatherings than it would be to show up on their own or rely in blind dates and set-ups.
2. Didn’t want to ruin the holidays: People are reluctant to end unhappy relationships just prior to, or during, the holiday season for fear of being thought of as a Grinch, the person who lowered the boom on an unsuspecting romantic partner at what was supposed to be the happiest time of the year. For couples on the edge of the decision, breaking up beforeChristmas may feel more stressful than actually dealing with the breakup itself. Their emotions may also be amplified by the season’s sentimentality.
3. Procrastination: A lot of couples might not see their significant other very much over the holidays. Between family stuff and holiday traditions there isn’t a whole lot of time to have a big relationship conversation. The majority of January dumpings have been brewing since way back in November. But then plans got made, presents were purchased, plane and train tickets were booked, families were obliged,
4.Hoping for a Christmas Miracle: Many operate under the assumption that the fairy lights and Christmas presents will somehow magically fix how you feel and everything will go back to how it once was. However, if things just aren’t working out, as soon as the decorations are brought down all you’ll be left with are your problems and you’ll have nothing to distract you from your unhappiness and the fact that the person you’re with isn’t the person you thought they were, you’ve grown apart maybe.
5. Out With The Old, In With The New: The start of a new year puts people into reflective phases where they tend to examine what is and is not working in their lives. Those self-examinations sometimes result in realizations they’re not at all happy in their current love relationships. Casting out that which no longer suits in preparation for finding a true soul mate becomes part of the many changes those looking to alter their lives will embrace.
So, is dating a good way to get through January as a singleton? Well it depends on how you do it. Heading out into the dark every weeknight on a date isn’t the best strategy that’s for sure. Instead, this month while you’re working on your own body, eating healthier, and picking up a new hobby, take some time to figure out what you’re looking for and where to find it. Then when the clouds clear and it’s Feb again, you’ll know what you want in a significant other, and be in a place where you’re ready to face Spring – single and either ready to mingle or go ahead with being ok just as you are. Whether it’s people rebounding from holiday breakups or singles inspired by New Year’s resolutions, January is clearly the time to get busy.
Julia McCurley is a Certified Matchmaker, former IT recruiter who brings a personal touch to finding love and happiness. Her company, Something More, has facilitated over two thousand introductions and helped create hundreds of successful relationships.. For more information please visit her website at http://www.trysomethingmore.com
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